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24-Hour Hotlines for Domestic Violence Assistance, Sexual Assault and Stalking Assistance
These confidential domestic violence crisis hotlines are available to both men and women 24 hours every day. The National Domestic Violence Hotline and Portland Women's Crisis Line can connect you to a local resource in your area.
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What Domestic Violence Resources are Available in My County?
Click on the county link below for a resource list in English, Spanish, and Russian with information about shelters, courthouse assistance, food banks, legal assistance, local Department of Human Services DHS) branches, advocacy centers, and more.
You may also contact your local domestic violence program for help in making a safety plan. To find a program in your area, click here.
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How do I get legal help?
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Where can I find out about my legal rights?
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How can I get a restraining order?
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Oregon Law Help has links to basic information, brochures, and forms for obtaining a restraining order to help protect you from domestic violence
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Forms includes printable forms to request, renew and modify Family Abuse Prevent Act (FAPA) orders
How can I get a stalking order?
If you are concerned about your safety when you go to the courthouse, contact the court clerk or trial court administrator before your appearance or hearing about your concerns and to ask if there are arrangements that can be made to keep you safe. For example, the court may have a law enforcement officer accompany you to and from the courthouse or may ask the respondent to sit in a separate, designated location during the proceeding.
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Can I get help from a victim's assistance program?
In each county, the District Attorney's office has a victim's assistance program. The victim's assistance program may be able to help you. Some victim assistance programs can help you only if you are a victim or party to a criminal proceeding.
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I have to create a parenting plan. What if I have safety concerns?
The links below have information on how to create a "safety-focused" parenting plan and on sample forms. Spanish language forms are available, too.
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Where can I find more information?
See these links for more information online:
See the list below for helpful books on domestic violence, some especially for children. Your local library may have them and others:
For Young Children:
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A Safe Place, Maxine Trottier (1997) (ages 5 and older)
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A Story for Young Children About Domestic Violence, When Mommy Got Hurt, Ilene Lee (1996)
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Hands are Not for Hitting, Martine Agassi, Ph.D. (2000)
For Elementary School Children:
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Something Is Wrong at My House, Diane Davis (also in Spanish) (1998)
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Bully On the Bus, Carl W. Bosch (1998)
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The Boy Who Sat by the Window: Helping Children Cope with Violence, C. Loftis (1996)
For Pre-teens and Adolescents:
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Family Violence, Debra Goldentyer (1995)
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Help Yourself to Safety, Kate Hubbard & Evelyn Berlin
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Skills for Violence-Free Relationships, Barrie Levy
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Dating Violence, Young Women in Danger, Barrie Levy (1991)
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In Love and In Danger, a Teen’s Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships, Barrie Levy (1993)
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For Adults:
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Battered Woman’s Survival Guide- Break the Cycle, by Jan Berliner Statman (1995)
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Dangerous Relationships - How to stop Domestic Violence Before it Stops You, by Noelle Nelson (1997)
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Defending Our Lives- Getting Away from Domestic Violence and Staying Safe, Susan Murphy-Milano (1996)
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The Domestic Violence Sourcebook, Dawn Bradley Berry (1998)
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Getting Free - You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life, by Ginny NiCarthy (1986)
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It’s Not OK Anymore, Greg Enns and Jan Black (1992)
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Men’s Work: How to Stop the Violence that Tears our Lives Apart, Paul Kivel (1998)
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Unlearning Violence, Paul Kivel (1992)
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War, Battering, and Other Sports: The Gulf Between American Men and Women, James McBride (1994)
For Parents:
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Beyond Dolls & Guns: 101 Ways to Help Children Avoid Gender Bias, Susan Crawford (1996)
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Boys Will Be Boys: Breaking the Link Between Masculinity and Violence, Myriam Miedzian (1991)
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Keeping Kids Safe, Kenneth Shore (2001)
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On the Safe Side: Teach Your Child to be Safe, Strong, and Street-Smart, Paula Statman (1995)
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Ten Talks Parents Must Have With Their Children About Violence, Dominic Cappello (2000)
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Housing and Employment Matters
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Resources for Attorneys and Mediators
The Domestic Violence Subcommittee of the State Family Law Advisory Committee (SFLAC) worked with the Oregon Judicial Department to develop "Guidelines for Developing Domestic Violence Plans and/or Protocols in the Context of Mediation (Revised August 2005) ." The Guidelines include how to develop mediation protocols for domestic violence issues and offer sample plans, forms, and other resources.