INTRODUCTION:

This material will help parents create basic parenting time plans that are age-appropriate for their children.  The Guide was developed by the State Family Law Advisory Committee's Parenting Plan Workgroup, which consulted parents and advocates as well as many professionals, including judges, court staff, attorneys, mediators, evaluators, and parent educators.  The guide has been updated to make it more clear and user-friendly.   Oregon law requires a parenting plan where children are involved.    ORS 107.102

If you have safety concerns, this list of questions can help you decide if you need a Safety Focused Parenting Plan. 

IMPORTANT NOTICE: Not all courts accept the parenting plan forms below. If you choose not to have a lawyer and to represent yourself, please check with your local court and/or facilitator to find out whether the court in your county accepts them.

PARENT EDUCATION CLASSES:  Many counties in Oregon require parents to complete a parent education class before a judgment can be entered in cases involving custody and parenting time of children. Please contact your local court for more details.  Click on the link for a listing of Oregon parent education classes used in Oregon family law cases as of January 2008.  

We recommend that you review the information provided below before you start filling out the worksheet and completing the form.  The worksheets have links that can help you understand unfamiliar words or give you access to information you may need to complete your forms.

You can complete the form by typing in your responses on the computer, rather than hand writing them in, and then saving the completed form on your computer. 

You will need to print the form to file with the court.  Make sure you save a copy of the completed form for your records.  You can also print off the blank forms and complete them by hand if you prefer.  You may add additional pages if you need more room for your responses.

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INDEX TO PARENTING PLAN MATERIALS

PARENTING PLAN BROCHURE

A tri-fold brochure describing all the parenting plan materials.  Includes a basic introduction to parenting plans, safety screening questions, and a listing of other materials available on the Oregon Judicial Department's family law website.

 

BASIC PARENTING PLAN GUIDE (Rev. 2008)

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WHAT IS A PARENTING PLAN AND HOW DO I USE THIS GUIDE?  Basic introduction to the concept.  Refers parents to a variety of resources for crafting their parenting plan.  Includes safety screening questions to help a parent decide whether to use the basic or the safety focused guide.

HOW DO I GET STARTED?  Questions for parents to ask themselves to get in the mindset to create a custom plan that fits their unique family needs.  Offers suggestions on how to use the answers to help guide them in making decisions about their parenting plan.

BASIC PARENTING PLAN FORM.  A master form with check boxes and simple choices.  Offers opportunities throughout to customize provisions.  Can be filled in on line, saved, changed, emailed and printed out.  Also can be printed out and filled in by hand.

BASIC PARENTING PLAN WORKSHEET.   The same master form, with detailed instructions.

Additional pages to Basic Form:

 

Attachment 3.2-c  offers a place for parents to set out a different parenting time schedule for a child    whose needs are different from his or her siblings, or a different schedule for when the children's needs change due to their growing older.

 

Attachment 4.2 Additional Holidays offers a place to add additional holidays or days of special significance to your parenting plan.

 

Attachment 9.5 offers a place to add additional paragraphs to the parenting plan.

 

SAMPLE SCHEDULES:  for each age group, (ages and stages) provides developmental information, then provides guidance for deciding on an age appropriate parenting time schedule.  Offers at least one suggestion (sometimes more) for three different levels of parental involvement.

Birth to 36 Months

 

3 to 5 years

 

6 to 12 years

 

13 to 18 years

 

Reference Sources for Ages and Stages

 

BLANK CALENDAR

MEDIUM/LONG DISTANCE PARENTING PLAN FORM.  Specially designed for use when parents live more than 60 miles away from each other.  A master form with check boxes and simple choices.  Offers opportunities throughout to customize provisions.  Can be filled in on line, saved, changed, emailed and printed out.  Also can be printed out and filled in by hand.

Attachments to Medium/Long Distance Form:

Attachment 4A - Medium Distance Schedule is designed for parents who live 60 - 180 miles apart.

Attachment 4B-Long Distance Schedule is designed for parents who live more than 180 miles apart.

MEDIUM/LONG DISTANCE PARENTING PLAN WORKSHEET.   The same master form, with detailed instructions.

WORDS I NEED TO KNOW.   A glossary of terms that are used in the Parenting Plan Guide or may be heard by parents during the legal process.

WHERE CAN I LEARN MORE?   A resource list of books, web sites, and other materials.  Materials for children are sorted by age group.  Materials for adults are sorted by topic.  Some listings also include a brief summary about the material.

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SAFETY FOCUSED PARENTING PLAN GUIDE (available in English and Spanish)

The Safety-Focused Parenting Plan Guide - (31 pages/Revised September 2003)  A guide for developing a safety-focused parenting plan where there are special concerns about domestic violence, abuse/neglect, substance abuse, or mental health concerns.

SPANISH TRANSLATION OF THE SAFETY FOCUSED PARENTING PLAN GUIDE: "Guia del Plan de Crianza Centrado en la Seguirdad para Padres de Familia."

IMPORTANT NOTICE: Not all courts accept the parenting plan forms below. If you choose not to have a lawyer and to represent yourself, check with your local court and/or facilitator to find out whether the court in your county accepts them.

How do I know if I need a safety-focused parenting plan?

This list can help you decide.

Has the other parent:

• acted as though violent behavior toward you or your child(ren) is OK in some situations?
• damaged or destroyed property or pets during an argument?
• threatened to commit suicide?
• pushed, slapped, kicked, punched or physically hurt you or your child(ren)?
• had problems with alcohol or other drugs?
• needed medication to be safe around others?
• threatened not to return or not returned your child(ren)?
• used weapons to threaten or hurt people?
• threatened to kill you, your child(ren) or anyone else?
• sexually abused anyone by force, threat of force, or intimidation?
• been served a protection or no contact order?
• been arrested for harming or threatening to harm you or anyone else?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, please continue to take your safety, and your children's safety, seriously. In addition, you may choose to create a safety focused parenting plan.

        Plan de crianza centrado en la seguridad

¿Necesita un plan centrado en la seguridad? Esta lista puede ayudarle a decidir.

El otro padre de familia:

• ¿se ha comportado como si la conducta violenta para con usted o su hijo o hijos es permisible en algunas situaciones?
• ¿ha dañado o destruido propiedad o animales caseros durante un altercado?
• ¿ha amenazado con suicidarse?
• ¿le ha empujado, cacheteado, pateado, golpeado con el puño o lesionado físicamente a usted o a su hijo o hijos?
• ¿ha tenido problemas debido al consumo de bebidas alcohólicas o de otras drogas?
• ¿necesita medicamentos para que los demás estén a salvo en su proximidad?
• ¿ha amenazado no traer de vuelta o no ha traído de vuelta a su hijo o hijos?
• ¿ha usado armas para amenazar o lastimar a otras personas?
• ¿ha amenazado con matarle a usted o a su hijo o hijos?
• ¿ha abusado sexualmente de alguien por fuerza, amenaza de hacer uso de fuerza o por intimidación?
• ¿se le ha nombrado en y presentado un auto de protección o de prohibición de contacto?
• ¿se le ha detenido por lesionarle o por amenazar con lesionarle a usted o a alguien más?

Si respondió afirmativamente a una de las preguntas, por favor siga tomándose en serio su seguridad y la de sus hijos. Quizá necesite un plan de crianza centrado en la seguridad.

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Safety Focused Parenting Plan Guide

This Guide will help parents create a safety-focused parenting plan where there are concerns about domestic violence, abuse or neglect, substance abuse or mental health concerns. The Guide was developed by the SFLAC Safety-Focused Parenting Plan Workgroup, which consulted parents and advocates as well as many professionals, including judges, court staff, attorneys, mediators, evaluators, and parent educators.

ENTIRE GUIDE

SAFETY FOCUSED PARENTING PLAN GUIDE (Complete Guide-31 Pages)

• SPANISH TRANSLATION OF THE SAFETY FOCUSED PARENTING PLAN GUIDE: "Guia del Plan de Crianza Centrado en la Seguirdad para Padres de Familia." [New 4/04, Revised 6/07]

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INTRODUCTION AND INSTRUCTIONS  Includes safety screening questions to help a parent decide whether to use the safety focused or basic guide.  Explains the three form options and when they might be used.  Gives basic instructions for filling out the forms.

SAFETY FOCUSED PARENTING PLAN FORM - Option A (Supervised)  Designed for when supervised parenting time and/or exchanges are necessary.

•  SPANISH TRANSLATION OF Parenting Plan - Option A (Supervised): "Plan de Crianza - Opcion A (Supervisado)"   [New 4/04])

SAFETY FOCUSED PARENTING PLAN FORM - Option B (Unsupervised/No Overnights)   Designed for when supervised parenting time and exchanges are not necessary but the child does not stay with the non-residential parent overnight.

• SPANISH TRANSLATION OF Parenting Plan - Option B (Unsupervised/No Overnights): "Plan de Crianza - Opcion B (Sin supervision/Sin quedarse a dormir)"  [New 4/04])

SAFETY FOCUSED PARENTING PLAN FORM - Option C (Overnights)  Designed for when supervised parenting time and exchanges are not necessary and the child does spend the night with the non-residential parent.  Offers provisions for safety for the parent during exchanges.  

• SPANISH TRANSLATION OF Parenting Plan - Option C(Overnights): "Plan de Crianza - Opcion C (Quedandose a dormir)" [New 4/04])

WORDS I NEED TO KNOW.  A glossary of terms that are used in the Safety Focused Parenting Plan Guide or may be heard by parents during the legal process.

WHERE CAN I LEARN MORE?  A resource list of books, web sites, and other materials focused on safety issues such as domestic violence, substance abuse, child abuse, mental health and anger.  Materials for children are sorted by age group.